Happy Tuesday my loves…
So what’s a tween? This is someone who is no longer a baby but not yet a teenager. It is someone in between. Kids from age 10-12 don’t want to be called children anymore. On the other hand, it is not apt to call them teenager since they haven’t reached 13 yet. So apparently, the term for them is “Tween”.
Parenting tweens can be a real challenge. It is during this time when the transition from kid to teenager happens. Most of the time, these kids act as if they know everything already and that they can live on their own. This is also the time when they feel ashamed if you kiss them in public. Saying “I Love You” in public is also becoming less and less.
The reason why this stage in our children’s lives is very important is that this is the time when they develop behaviours and habits. Guided properly, these kids will grow up to be perfectly matured teenagers. However, when not handled properly, these kids may end up as troubled teens.
So as parents, how can we handle tweens?
Understanding is very crucial at this time. As parents, you should always be there for your tween. There are times when the tween becomes moody because of some changes that may be happening emotionally and physically so parents must stretch their patience and understanding more.
You should always lend an ear to listen. Listening helps your children open up. If you give them the impression that you are not ready and you are not willing to listen, they will not open up to you. They will just keep to themselves what they have in mind. This is something that you would not want to happen. Of course, as parents, we want to know what is going on in the lives of our children. If they don’t talk to us, we will be blinded by what is really happening.
Encourage your children always. This will not only build their confidence and self esteem but encouraging your children will also build their confidence and trust on you. They will know that you are with them and that you got their back.
Tweens are hard to deal with if you don’t know how to handle them properly. As a parent of a tween, I always make sure that I am there when my son needs me. Being a cool parent doesn’t always mean that you tolerate everything that your tween wants to do but it also means that you let your tween understand their limitations in a way that they don’t feel deprived.
Psalms 127:3-5 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.