How To Be A Good Wife – In Celebration Of Women’s Day

Happy Tuesday my loves..

Women’s day is just around the corner. One of the exciting roles of a woman is to be a wife. I’ve been married for many years already.I have lived half of my life with my husband. Our marriage is not a walk in the park. It is not something that came out straight from a romantic fairy tale story. Our marriage is just like everybody else’s. We have our ups and downs. We have our little arguments. We struggle many times. But God has continually sustained what we have.

So as part of the upcoming women’s day, let me share to you some of the ways to be a good wife. Some are clichés that we often times forget about so please take them as reminders.

1. Women’s way is not always the right way. Let’s admit it. Sometimes our way is so different from our husband’s way. In a relationship, there should always be respect. Even if we think that we are certain with our way, we should not miss the opportunity to listen to our husbands’ ideas. They may have a different way of taking things but it doesn’t mean that they are already wrong. Listen first before deciding on whose way to follow.

2. Be your husband’s constant companion. We all need intimate companionships. Genesis 2:18 says that “It is not good that the man should be alone.” We need company and unless we want our husbands to look for company somewhere else, let us keep our intimate companionship alive.

3. Don’t assume that your husband is a mind reader. Women are vague. We don’t usually say what we want to say in a direct way. We beat around the bush and yet expect our husbands to fully understand us. They are not mind readers. Say what you mean and then communication will not be that difficult at all.

4. Your husband is not Prince Charming. Don’t expect too much and you will not be disappointed. Women are so fond of fairy tale love stories. As young girls, we always dream of having our own prince charmings. But have we asked ourselves this: we are looking for Prince Charming but are we Cinderella material? Expectations can ruin a relationship. Accept who your husband is. Forget Prince Charming.

5. Before you talk to other people about your relationship concerns, talk to your husband first. Anything about the relationship should be discussed between the two of you. Other people will just create a wider barrier between you and your husband. Asking for people’s advice is an option only if you can’t resolve the issue between the two of you.

So there you go my loves, my five tips on how to be a good wife. I am not a good wife yet but I’m trying to be one 🙂


An Open Letter To My Son – On Your New Journey

Dear Vince,

Growing up, I have constantly heard the saying that time flies so fast. Not until today, I didn’t fully realize the meaning of this saying. As you embark on a new journey in your young life, I can’t help but think about how quick time has been. It was just like yesterday when you were a baby clutching on my leg when I first left you in your Nursery classroom and now you have confidently marched on the stage receiving your elementary diploma like a grown man.

Remember when I stayed for the whole two months inside your Nursery room because you kept on crying? I must say I had a hard time but on the other hand, I was cherishing every moment of it because I know that time will come when you will push me out of the classroom lest your friends will tease you as mama’s boy.

When we moved to Australia and you started your preparatory studies there, we were both taken back to the first day of your nursery class. I understand as everything was new and people were speaking in a language different from you. Nevertheless, I was so proud that you held your tears back and bravely went through the day and the days after that.

Going back to the Philippines is another major challenge for you. Just when you have learned to speak the English language like a pro, you were taken back to the place where you have already forgotten the language. Filipino was a pain to teach to you as your tongue seems to be so used to the English language already. But you have shown me such determination to re-learn the language and you did.

I know that you have been too pressured by me and your daddy when it comes to your studies. There was not a night that you can sleep early because we had to review the lessons to make sure you understand them. I know that your attention span as a kid is not that long so you may not have grasped everything that the teacher has taught you in school so we had to review the lessons at home. You may find us very strict but I hope someday you will be able to thank us for doing so. Do you think it does not hurt us to see you so tired? It does but no pain, no gain, right?

As you start with another chapter in your journey, my prayer is that you grow up valuing what is good and rebuking what is not. It is my earnest prayer always that you grow up to be the man that God planned you to be. We are not perfect parents but I pray all the time that God helps us be good parents to you.

During high school years, many children are inclined to confide to their friends rather than their parents. Please don’t do so. Please remember that our ears are always ready to listen. Our hearts are always ready to sympathize. Our hands are always ready to help. We are always here for you.

We love you so much and that will never change.



What’s Going On?

Happy Tuesday my loves..

It’s been a roller coaster ride for me and my family this past few weeks. With everything that’s going on at school and at home, I never had the time to write. So let’s have a quick catch up. Here’s what happened to Kiks this past few weeks:

March was the last month of school. This means that it will the month for projects and examinations too. For those who don’t know yet, I am a super OC mom when it comes to my son’s studies. So I had to review my son everyday. I also had to help him with his school projects. Come on, I believe all students require help from parents in doing school projects, right? After all, who can do all the projects for all the different school subjects and study for major exams at the same time? Who are we kidding?

March is also the month for taking entrance examinations for middle school. My son is starting grade 7 this coming school year so he had to take different entrance examinations from different schools. I want him to have as many options as he can. So this means that everyday we are busy reviewing for the exams and the interviews. Thank God that the results have come through and he passed the exams. The thing is that even if he has passed the exams, we still have to wait for the ranking. This is because the school that we want has a limited number of slots for students.

March was also my son’s graduation month. Finally, he has completed his elementary education with high grades. I am really glad that all his efforts paid off. I’ll share pictures on my next post.

So you see how busy I was my loves. Anyway, I am planning to write more often now. Writing relaxes me. When the stress is too much, writing is my rest 🙂