I’m Bully-Proofing My Son, Would You?

Happy Tuesday my loves…

When I was little, I was always the target of bullies at school. I was in a government school.We don’t have a cleaner for each classroom so after each day, we were asked to clean the room and get it ready for the next day. There was this classmate of mine who is the daughter of one of the teachers in the school. I don’t know why but she seems to take extra fondness of me as her bully object. And being the daughter of a teacher, it somehow gave her authority over all the other students. She always assign me to apply floor wax. I had to do this using a piece of cloth with wax on it. I had to apply it by hand so I had to be on my knees to do this properly. And you know what my loves? This bully will ride on my back while I apply the floor wax. Being the little girl that I was — afraid of my teachers — I would just go on with what I do. Only now did I realize that it was not a good experience and I don’t want my son to experience the same bullying. I am bully-proofing my son! Would you do the same to your kids?

Parenting entails protecting our children from any harm. I perceive bullying as a potential harm to my son and to any other kids. So how can we, parents, help our kids from becoming bully victims? Here are some very effective bully proof parenting techniques:

* Parents should encourage children to talk about their dilemma. Kids are often scared to talk about their bullying experience. What parents can do is encourage the child to speak by sharing their own bullying experience and how they got out of it. Every time the child opens up about the experience, parents should commend him. If the child feels comfortable talking about the experience, he can always open up to the teachers and even school administrators about bullying and the bully will be stopped.

* Eliminate the causes of bullying. What does the bully want from your child? Whatever it is that makes the bullies turn to your child, eliminate it. If the bully is after money, then don’t give your child money so that the bully won’t have something to get from your child.

* Encourage your child to have more friends. A bully will always target kids who are alone. He will not usually picked on a child who is with two or more friends with him. So as much as possible, arrange more social activities for your child where he can meet more friends.

* Encourage your child to stand up for himself. Bullies will not have the courage to picked on someone who knows how to put up a good fight. I am not saying that you teach your child to fight but teach your child to stand up for his right. He can talk to the teacher about his situation so the teacher can do something about it.

Let’s fight bullying. It is not healthy. It scars children. Let us bully proof our children.

Psalm 127:3-5

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth.  Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.

 

 

I Want To Lose Weight But It Keeps On Finding Me

Happy Monday my loves…

I have a very bad internet provider – SmartBro. Today, opening a single web page takes forever. In fact, I can already finish all my mommy duties and still the page is not even halfway from loading. Anyway, it is somehow a blessing in disguise because it gives me time to write a post.

Lately, I have been complaining about my super dooper heavy weight. I am 20 pounds over my weight 10 years ago. I know it is a very long time already but still I couldn’t believe I allowed myself to be this heavy. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against anyone who is above their average weight. My disappointment is merely personal.

The truth is I really wanted to lose weight. But somehow “weight” has its special way of finding me…all the time…I mean I can’t get away. When I decide to eat less, it’s usually the time when my appetite is too strong. When I decide to exercise, it is usually the time when I feel so lazy. When I decide to follow a certain diet regimen, it is usually the time when I want to binge. It seems like there is no perfect time.

On one hand, I want to lose weight but on my other hand, I am carrying all the foods that I love to eat — talk about balance!

Just now, I am seriously thinking about the reason why I can’t seem to lose even a pound of my unwanted curves. And then it boils to me that I lack willpower. I can’t stick to what I am doing. I am not always hungry. My stomach doesn’t always call for food but my mouth is always in need.

It is really depressing to see that your clothes don’t fit you anymore. Or when you want to buy clothes but you know they won’t look good on you because you have plenty of curves and they are all out of place.

Each day I would say that it will be the start of a new healthy and fit life for me. But I do this every day. Each day remains a start and so far, there had been no second day of healthy lifestyle for me yet.

Oh, my sentiments about weight loss can go on and on but I won’t bore you my loves of all my disappointments.

Anyway, I will start a healthy lifestyle tomorrow…hopefully :) I will give you an update, if ever there will be.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.

 

Surrounded With Love

Happy Wednesday my loves….

Happy Wordless Wednesday!

The innocence of children brings forth genuine love. I believe that if we surround ourselves with children, we surround ourselves with love. I feel so loved :)

 

 

Romans 15:13

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Does Authoritative Parenting Lead To Child Obesity?

Happy Friday my loves…

Authoritative Parenting

Parents should make their kids eat healthy foodsI personally think that child obesity is one of the toughest challenges of parenting. Why? Because obesity does not only pose serious health problems to our children but it can only bring down our children’s self esteem to a great degree.

There had been issues regarding the effect of authoritative parenting to obesity. It got me wondering. How can authoritative parenting lead to child obesity?

According to researches, parents who are over controlling of what their children eat only worsen the desire of the kids to eat unhealthy. If you won’t let your kids try sweets even once, they will only develop a very strong urge to try it when you are not looking. Well, let’s admit it…it is always so tempting to try something that we are told not to try. Our human nature of curiosity kicks in once we hear the word – CAN’T.

By being too authoritative with regards to eating, parents also encourage unhealthy bingeing. Kids are more prone to eating too much of unhealthy foods when they get the chance.

As parents, we can’t always be there when our children eat. Even if we pack their lunch and ensure there’s nothing unhealthy in there, we can never be sure of what they eat. Remember that they have friends and classmates who may not have parents as health conscious as we are. These kids may be bringing in unhealthy foods at school and they could be sharing these foods with our kids.

Preventing Child Obesity

So what can we do to prevent child obesity? Although we need to ensure that our kids eat healthy foods, let us not be too tough when it comes to trying out other foods. I think it is just fine to let them have a taste of sweets or other foods we deem unhealthy just so they will not crave for it. Just make sure that we properly guide them when they have a taste of these foods. Never forget to remind the kids how these foods can cause them bad health.

We should find ways to make healthy foods look and taste more appetizing and yummy than unhealthy foods. This way, our kids will love what we feed them and they will not look for anything more tasteful.

Part of a good parenting technique is to encourage our kids to engage in physical activities. This will not only keep them active but it will also help them lose weight and maintain it.

1 Corinthians 10:31

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

Are We Robbing Our Children Of Their Childhood?

Happy Wednesday my loves…

Idealistic Parenting

Parents today are more idealistic. We want our children to be the best of who they can be. Well, who wouldn’t want to see a future doctor or a future Math whiz, right? But sometimes we have to realize that our kids need to be kids to truly learn. Sometimes we go overboard with parenting and we may not be aware of it yet but we may already be robbing our children of their precious childhood.

I remember when I was a little girl, I play a lot. Well, I don’t have real dolls or expensive electronic game machines but I have a very vivid imagination. I and my sisters would play pretends. We will write stories and pretend that we own a book store where our stories are the best sellers. And yes, we do have patrons – our cousins. I have a good childhood memory because my parents allowed me to be a child.

Let The Children Play

Playing is beneficial for the development of children. Its benefits are not limited to the following:

  • Children learn to widen their imagination. Playing is imagination at work. How many times have we seen our children holding a piece of handkerchief and pretending it is a make up brush? Or how many times have we found our kids singing their voice out using a  hair brush as the microphone? Playing make kids more imaginative. This helps them in their cognitive development.
  • Children learn to interact with others. Playing develops social skills in children. They learn to deal with other kids. Sometimes they play with adults so they learn how to interact with different ages.
  • Children learn to develop confidence. When they enjoy their childhood, they become more confident. They feel they are more able to express themselves without hesitation.

I understand why we can be idealistic at times – why we tend to ensure that whatever our kids do, it should be academic in nature. But let us not forget that playing is part of their normal development. Don’t rob your children of their childhood. Let them play. Let them enjoy their childhood. Let them create memories that they will cherish throughout their lives.

Psalm 127:3-5

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth.  Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.

 

Is There Something In My Teeth?

Happy Wordless Wednesday my loves…

So my niece had her birthday party. It was so much fun. It’s no surprise I guess. Just look at me after the party:

And as if one is not enough, here are my sisters joining me:

Is there something in our teeth? And the culprit is this:

Gray frosting on the cupcakes!

Philippians 4:4

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.

Product Review – Dolphy PC Personalized Educational Games

Happy Friday my loves…

As a mommy, I always prefer educational games for my son. I am sure that all mommies will agree that it gives us a sense of contentment to know that as our kids enjoy, they also learn. There are a lot of exciting educational games out there. In fact, if you search for Computer Personalized  Educational Games Packages, you’ll find that there are quite a lot to choose from.

My son is 10 years old and I am really happy that there are computer personalized educational games that cater to his age. Dolphy Educational Games is a company that creates personalized games that kids will surely enjoy. My son was really lucky to be given the opportunity to try out Dolphy’s PC Personalized Educational Games package.

Just to give you a bit of information about the games package that we received. It is divided into 3 categories that your kids will surely enjoy:

1. Learning Games

2. Thinking Games

3. Fun With Words and Numbers

Each category is composed of different games. Learning games include spelling bee, animal Math, animal letters, and animal words. Thinking games include memory game, checkers, and tic tac toe. The Fun with Words and Numbers include the word game and numbers puzzle.

Each game has 3 levels of difficulty: easy, medium, and hard. For my son, he enjoyed the hard games because the easy ones are too –well–easy for him :)

Each game will surely help develop your children’s learning skills. The varied activities will keep them entertained and busy for hours.

I believe that through this game, your children will:

1. develop broader vocabulary

2. learn to spell words correctly

3. enhance their memory skills

4. develop mathematical skills like digits recognition, addition, subtraction, multiplication, division and a combination of these operations

4.develop cognitive skills and reasoning as there are activities that require logical thinking

5. develop learning strategies

6. develop computer skills

7. enhance reading and writing skills

and the list can go on and on.

I am a firm believer of the potential of every child to learn to the fullest. And I believe that educational games like this will help them reach their full potential.

What Makes This Educational Game Unique?

The game addresses your child by his name. It makes your child even more excited every time he hears the voice prompt commending him by his name. For instance, when you open the game, it will greet the child by saying “hello, (name of child)”. It also says “well done (child’s name)” if the child is doing good with the activities. This will help encourage the child to strive to learn more.

When you order the package, you will be asked to write your child’s name on the Special Instructions box. This way, your child’s name will be incorporated to the game.

The games are also presented in a colourful way. The background is nature inspired and it is animated. This will help keep your child’s interest on the game.

The voice over is very clear. Your child will definitely understand each word spoken on the voice over. My son is not a native English speaker but he understands every word spoken on the games.

The games are highly interactive and your child will definitely get hooked on the games. Well, I am speaking in terms of experience as my son loves playing the games.

You’ll receive this PC personalized educational game package through a download or in a  CD-ROM.

I highly recommend this game package to parents. Take it from me my loves, your children will enjoy and learn :)

If you want me to review your products, shoot me a mail at kikssimplelife@gmail.com.

Proverbs 1:5

Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance,